Since our separation, conversations with ODTBX have seldom been respectful or productive. Friday night was no exception. It began with a simple inquiry into my next visitation date with the boys, touched on dental and insurance issues and ended with a proclamation that I’m viewed as an enemy with no class.
What does one do with that??
I don’t know about anyone else, but I started scouring Amazon for books to help guide me. Because I am way over my head in dealing with texts like this.
I’m not quite sure how many titles I downloaded samples of, but “Divorce Poison New And Updated Edition: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing” seemed to offer the most hope.
The book description begins with an apt summary of my perception of the situation I currently find myself in…
“Your ex-spouse is bad mouthing you to your children, constantly portraying you in a negative light, perhaps even trying to turn them against you.”
I devoured the book within a few short hours.
And came away feeling affirmed and empowered.
And a little less anxious – though it’s very clear finding a good therapist and a good lawyer are going to be essential going forward.
I know I’m going to have to read the book again, taking the time to absorb the lessons it contains, but I can already give it a high recommendation for anyone who is going through the divorce process, especially if your marriage was marred by emotional abuse or addictions issues. I’d say the odds are high you’re going to need the advice for at least the first two stages of parental alienation – the badmouthing & brainwashing…
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